“You seem to have more faith in me than I have in myself’ – a sentence that appeared in my messenger inbox a few days ago from a woman I have been talking to about working together on building her business.
It made me initially feel something that surprised me – it made me feel sad.
Listen. I know that there are people in our lives that inspire us to be better. Resources that encourage us to challenge our thinking about what is possible for us. New goals to reach for that will change our lives for the better.
The thing that makes me sad is that not enough women listen to/use/reach for them.
And it needs to stop.
I was listening to an audio book while out walking the other day and I heard this truly shocking statistic: a man will apply for a job that he considers himself at least 60% qualified to do, figuring that he will bridge that gap by learning as he goes, whereas a woman will write herself off if she does not immediately recognize her capabilities in that arena!
I think it’s because we have so much evidence around us of why we can’t be/do/have what we want in our lives – evidence that we LOOK for, and therefore find.
We see her success as proof of our failure.
We look in the mirror and dislike what we see.
We wish for more but take ourselves out of the running because we don’t know how.
We don’t see how extraordinary we are, even when someone is standing in front of us as a mirror reflecting all that we are capable of.
It’s not that I have more faith in you than you have in yourself, sis. It’s that I SEE YOU!
And what I see is a woman who is capable of something great, no matter her colour, shape, size or orientation. I hope that you start seeing her success, not as proof that you suck, but as proof that it is possible.
I hope that you look in the mirror and see that you are enough, just the way you are, even while working on improving the things you don't like.
I hope that your wish for more manifests into you taking intentional action and trusting that the ‘how’ will reveal itself.
But until then, you can ride on the coattails of my belief because I am a woman who is no more special than you. I just have the audacity to BELIEVE – in myself, in my dreams, in the people that surround me, and in the other women who are hoping, wishing, dreaming for more.
I believe in YOU.
Love you, mean it.