Do you ever find yourself looking on at the lives of others and just getting really pissed off?!
It's not that you hate watching other people achieve things or that you wish they were not making progress. You are not a monster, after all!
It's just that standing on the sidelines watching other kids play suuuuuuuucks so hard when you feel as if you are not making any progress at all.
I get it. That's where I was around May/June/July!
I was so fed up with getting that feeling of 'urgh' when I would see people celebrating their wins and encouraging me to 'just go for it'. Like, I KNOW!! But the feeling of 'stuckness' was just so paralysing!
How do you get 'unstuck'???!!!
Well, to be honest, friend, that's up to you.
Some people need something really bad to happen in order for them to get a "kick up the behind".
Some people need to ease into making changes slowly over the course of many months.
Me? I just needed to call myself out on my own bullshit.
For real. For real!
I was frustrated because I was telling myself that I was 'doing all the things'. I wasn't.
I was pissed off because I was "working as hard as them but not seeing the results". I wasn't.
I was defeated because why was it such a struggle for me when they could "just do it". They can't.
The truth of the matter is... you can't get mad at the results you DON'T get from the work you DON'T do!
Cliche, perhaps, but true.
1. I identified my bullshit - I was being inconsistent with my nutrition, I was drinking a lot (for me) and I was not prioritising my sleep. No wonder my waistline was ballooning!
2. I engaged a new plan and put my trust in the process - 100% adherence to my nutrition plan, no alcohol and no treats until Gio's birthday weekend (just celebrated, baby;o) !!), daily workouts. I started to feel better almost immediately and that helped keep the momentum going.
3. I focused on becoming a better version of me - I read every day, did affirmations and a daily gratitude practice, I took a walk everyday to get outside and be with myself. THIS was the gamechanger, I think - a positive mind cannot continue to get negative results, it just does not work that way!
And here is where we are at:
Damn, it feels good to no longer be on the sidelines!! To feel like I am the star player in MY OWN GAME!!! No envy, no self-flagellation, no disappointment or frustration.
I'm not done yet, either, and that's the beautiful thing... when you take full responsibility for how you are showing up, you discover just how much you are capable of ;o)
I don't know if any of this resonates with you, friend, but please know that I am here to guide and support you if you are done watching from the sidelines.
I have a new challenge coming up to help us engage steps 1-3 between the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays! It coincides with my 'No Excuse November' sale so please reach out and let's chat about where you are and what you need to start moving forward.
Simply contact me here and let's chat!
I'm excited to hear from you.
Until then, Happy Thanksgiving, USA peeps!